To Dole Or Not

charityTo Dole Or Not

For Attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.
People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed. Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms.
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself and the other for helping others.”
― Sam Levenson

The Mahabharata, has a story of a mongoose, which was half golden. The Mongoose claims that the charity of a Brahmin family turned him half gold the day he finds an act equal to that then he would turn fully gold.

Sacrifice, charity everything is magnified by the keepers of social morality. Somewhere it is socialism in theological context.

Well what actually is charity…? the Merriam Webster defines it as the act of giving money, food, or other kinds of help to people who are poor, sick, etc. also something that is given to people who are poor, sick etc. It could be an organization that helps people who are poor, sick etc. it could be an organization that helps people in need.

For me charity was a word of self righteousness,  a certain amount of grandeur and great amount of pity.

The word was first known to be used in the 13th century. From Middle English Charite, which in turn emerged from anglo-french charité , from Latin Caritat- caritas Christian love, from Latin, dearness, from carus dear, akin to Old Irish carae i.e. friend, Sanskrit Kama love. That is a long journey of re-invention for the word.

With this understanding of the word then charity is not about pity but about love. Charity and lover are same, with charity you give love, so don’t just give money but reach your hand instead. – that’s what Mother Theresa said.

I still go with charity being a personal choice if one has the means, but charity which is expected or compelled is simply a polite word for slavery. Think about it, when we give food to the poor they call us saints, dhana veera whatever, when we turn round and ask why the poor have no food, then we become communists!

There are times when I definitely refuse to donate, particularly when kids come collecting. Charity should be something that I can expend kids do not earn, so how could they contribute with time, energy or may be some other resource. But getting kids to collect money is like teaching them to beg.

Then there is tithing, where we donate a part of our earnings to our spiritual source which in turn would use it for something that it needs. I really like what is done in the Gurudwara, where families, collect every week and cook for the community. when we hosted the langar, my 4 year old daughter was asked to fold the dough so that others could roll it out faster.

Charity is a great a way to give back, if we can do it in all humbleness, thanking the person for giving us the opportunity to do so.

When it comes to receiving be it love or charity, we want to payback, have no debts. Yet in the end, though maybe we must all give up trying to pay back the people in this world who sustain our lives. In the end maybe it’s wiser to surrender before the miraculous scope of human generosity and just say thank you, forever and sincerely for as long as we have voices.


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  1. For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day…

    Many kids actually love combing hair. The joy beats the slight discomfort, when fingers meet the odd knots…

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