Does public speaking make me uncomfortable, would I want to hide in the bathroom, well, not actually. There is something so impersonal about public speaking; I am like a performer playing a role. Since most public speaking that I do is educative.
Of course I am inflicted with the speaker’s curse of three…
Oh! Don’t you know what it is; well most speakers have three speeches in their kitty for every speech delivered. The one they prepared one they delivered and finally one that they wished they had delivered.
In his book Extempore speech: How to Acquire and Practise It, William Pittenger shares “there is a strange sensation often experienced in the presence of an audience. It may proceed from the gaze of the many eyes that turn upon the speaker, especially if he permits himself to steadily return that gaze most speakers have been unconscious of this in a nameless thrill, a real something pervading the atmosphere, tangible, evanescent, indescribable. All writers borne testimony to the power of a speaker’s eye in impressing an audience. This influence which we are now considering is the reverse of that picture – the power of their eyes may exert upon him, especially before he begins to speak: after the inward fires of oratory are fanned to flame the eyes of the audience lose all terror.”
I don’t really understand all this theorizing, for me it is very simple. A good speech like Winston Churchill said should be like a woman’s skirt: long enough to cover the subject and short enough to create interest”. If you have an important point to make,don’t try to be subtle or clever. Use a pile driver. Hit the point once. Then come back and hit it again. Then hit it a third time—a tremendous whack.
At the end of the day, like Ashley Ormon says,” Honestly, if everyone likes what you say something is wrong with your message.”